What to Do When Your Preteen Won’t Brush Their Teeth (Even with Braces)
Let’s be real, momma—I didn’t expect to be using my best detective voice every morning like:
“Let me see those braces. Open your mouth. Nope. Try again. Use your Waterpik and clean the mirror this time!”
But here we are. My preteen daughter is smart—and yet somehow, brushing her teeth has become an Olympic-level challenge.
She has braces. She has tools. She has flossers. She has a momma who reminds her. And still… I find myself repeating the phrase:
“You don’t want white spots when those braces come off, baby girl.”
The Hygienist Had a Chat (And She Was So Kind)
At our last appointment, our hygienist kindly pulled her aside and said:
*”You’re doing okay, but if we don’t brush better, you’re going to get those white spots. The good news? We can still fix it if we catch it now!”
Bless that hygienist. Because sometimes hearing it from someone other than mom is what really makes it click.
We left that appointment with some extra tips and a little pep talk. I could tell my daughter wanted to do better—but, you know, preteens are basically professional boundary-testers.
Gentle Nudges (And Not-So-Gentle Reality Checks)
Here’s what’s working in our house right now:
- Morning spot check: I ask her to show me her teeth every morning. We talk through what she missed, if anything.
- Timers and music: I know it sounds like this is for the littles, but it’s great for the bigs, too! Pick a 2-minute song they love and make it more fun, less of a chore.
- Mirror motivation: I put a sticky note on her bathroom mirror that says: *”Future You will thank you for today’s clean teeth.”
- Before and after pics: She took a photo the day she got braces and one after a really good brushing session. It’s helping her see the difference.
Do I still have to follow up? Yup. But it feels less like a battle and more like teamwork.
You’re Not a Bad Mom if Your Preteen Won’t Brush Her Teeth
If your preteen is pushing back, dragging their feet, or brushing like they’re sweeping dust with a feather, you’re not failing.
You’re showing up. You’re coaching. You’re doing the work. And it matters.
These are the years when good habits get built (or at least, get planted). Even if they roll their eyes now, one day they’ll flash a confident smile and remember you were in their corner.
FAQ: Brushing with Braces
What causes white spots on teeth with braces?
White spots are early signs of enamel demineralization, often caused by poor brushing around brackets. They’re preventable—and sometimes reversible if caught early.
Can my child fix white spots while the braces are still on?
Yes! With better brushing, fluoride rinses, and occasional professional care, many spots improve before the braces come off.
What toothbrush works best for kids with braces?
A soft-bristled electric toothbrush with a timer is ideal. It helps reach around the brackets and makes brushing more effective (and a little more fun).
Final Pep Talk
Mamas, we’re in this together. You’re not nagging—you’re nurturing. And while it may feel exhausting now, you’re building something that lasts longer than any phase of sass.
Let them roll their eyes. You’re protecting their smile.
And that? That’s worth showing up for every single day.
Your friendly momma with a preteen,
Kasey Smith